The Moment of Doubt: Conformity vs. Authenticity
It was a typical Tuesday morning. Dressed and ready to leave, I found myself hesitating. “Should I take it out?” The internal debate was about my nose ring – a small piece of my identity that I was moments away from erasing.
The Job Interview That Changed Everything
Walking into the interview, I had already stripped away a part of myself. I removed my nose ring, hoping to blend in. As I sat nervously in the small office, filling out forms and answering questions, something felt off. The rejection that followed wasn’t just about not getting the job – it was about not being true to myself.
Breaking Free from the “Fit In” Mentality
Embracing Uniqueness in a Superficial Industry
As a Muslim Black girl from Harlem wearing a head wrap, I realized early on that fitting in was impossible. The fashion industry is known for its narrow standards, but I discovered something powerful: standing out is my strength.
“If people are going to stare, then you might as well look good, feel good, and be yourself.”
The Journey to Self-Confidence
My early career was marked by:
- Numerous job rejections
- Periods of self-doubt
- A constant struggle to conform
The turning point came when I stopped trying to change myself. Confidence wasn’t about fitting in – it was about owning who I am.
Why You Should Rock Your Modesty
Modesty as a Statement of Strength
Contrary to popular belief, modesty isn’t about fading into the background. It’s about:
- Feeling confident in your own skin
- Amplifying your unique personality
- Making a powerful statement without saying a word
The Real Impact of Clothing and Confidence
Clothes don’t define you – they amplify you. Your self-perception influences:
- Career choices
- Relationships
- Personal interactions
- Self-worth
Practical Tips for Owning Your Modesty
In the upcoming posts, I’ll share:
- Layering techniques for professional modest wear
- How to choose pieces that boost confidence
- Styling tips for professional Muslim women
The Power of a Perfect Jacket
Pro tip: A well-fitted jacket can transform any outfit, making it professional and stylish while maintaining modesty.
Your Turn: Reflect and Share
Think about a time when you weren’t being entirely yourself. What held you back? How can you own your unique identity moving forward?
Final Thoughts on Owning Your Modesty
Remember, modesty isn’t about hiding – it’s about confidently showcasing your authentic self. Whether you wear a head wrap, a hijab, or any form of modest clothing, the key is to wear it with pride and confidence.
Stay tuned for next week’s post on amplifying your style through strategic layering!
Leave a comment below and share your journey of self-acceptance and style.
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Assalam Alaikum Sister!
This experience shared with me has been such a blessing. I’ve struggled with this for so long. I held employment where I dressed in the typical suit, high heals and no head scarf. I resigned to focus on my religion, but when life changes (divorce) forced me back into the workforce, I thought I could never get a job identified as a Muslim woman. Well, I kept getting rejections letters after rejection letters, note all my in person interviews I looked great in my power suit and heals. One day when I returned to my hotel room after attending my mother’s funeral, a message was in my email inbox asking me if I was available for an interview. I replied yes. The day of the interview, I basically said f this, I’m interviewing them. I’m rocking my suit with a skirt covering ALL my legs and a scarf over my head. I thought, “If they will not hire me with identifying as a Muslim woman, I don’t want to work for them. Realize, I was in great need of money by then. ” Well, to make a long story short, I walked into the interview with five members of the selection board, and I felt like I was on fire, BEING ME! I got the job, and they even negotiated my salary higher than their initial offer!!!! I know not everyone will get hired wearing a clothing that identifies them as a Muslim woman, but who wants to work for people like that? I was fortunate, and I don’t expect all Muslim women to go on the street not getting a job due to discrimination, but this was my experience. You can be modest without a head covering too!
Noor
WAS! Shukran for sharing! I’m sooo happy for you. I know it’s not easy, but when you decide to own it and be you- I think that’s when things start to open up! Muslim women need to hear stories like these and know that it is possible! 🙂
My condolences for your loss